"You can, you should, and if you're brave enough to start, you will." Stephen King
What is Coaching?
Whether you want to improve your wellbeing, develop your strengths, get this promotion or learn to cope better with stressors…
As a coach I help you to reach your goals and create lasting change while staying true to yourself.
The most important things are the hardest to say. They are the things you get ashamed of, because words diminish them — words shrink things that seemed limitless when they were in your head to no more than living size when they’re brought out.
But it’s more than that, isn’t it? The most important things lie too close to wherever your secret heart is buried, like landmarks to a treasure your enemies would love to steal away. And you may make revelations that cost you dearly only to have people look at you in a funny way, not understanding what you’ve said at all, or why you thought it was so important that you almost cried while you were saying it.
That’s the worst, I think. When the secret stays locked within not for want of a teller but for want of an understanding ear.
We all prefer to solve our issues alone. Sometimes you need someone who is not in the game but can give a different perspective, revealing chances that you did not see before.
Coaching is a structured process that helps you to bridge the gap between where you are now, to where you would like to be, by first uncovering what you want. But it’s not only talking: we create a practical step-by-step plan to ensure you know the next steps to take. Coaching provides support through changes and obstacles on the way as well as tools and strategies to create lasting changes and success.
Composition of a good coach:
- understanding ear for things you normally don’t talk about
- humourous and critical mouth to ask the right questions and open up new possibilities
- sharp brain to apply powerful tools and explain the science behind them
- compassionate heart to trust that the answers are within you from the beginning on
- quick feet to kick a** (if necessary)
…works best when the fit between coach and client is right.
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Or Systems Thinking offers a powerful perspective and mindset that one can use to better understand and address stubborn recurring problems in everyday work and life. It is a way of understanding reality that emphasizes the relationships between a system’s parts, rather than the parts themselves.
In essence, this means that you are the expert of all the systems you are part of (family, friends, colleagues etc.). A systemic coach cannot change the behaviour you show in your system, only you can and by behaving differently the whole system changes.
Positive Psychology (PP)
The scientific study of what makes life worth living. Traditional psychology is not “negative” but focusses on shortcomings – how to fix things that go wrong.
PP’s objective is to make life better for individuals, communities and organisations by providing effective interventions to enable flourishing.
Improving your wellbeing, using your strengths, having fulfilling relationships, finding meaning in what you do and reaching your goals. Relevant topics that are not taught in school but can be learned.
Second-wave Positive Psychology (PP2.0)
What about the “dark side” of life?
PP2.0 is a new movement within Positive Psychology which focuses on the dialectical nature of wellbeing. Negative emotions as well as negative experiences belong to life as well as positive. They are not to be pushed aside but rather viewed in context as they too serve a purpose and help people to grow and find meaning.
PP2.0 also brings ideas from Eastern philosophies into psychology, enriching it with e.g. concepts from Zen Buddhism.
Why Stephen King quotes?
From childhood on, horror novels were my life and Stephen was my King. “IT” was my first encounter with the power of nerds, geeks and outliers. When they work together, accept their different personalities and realize their full potential, they can change – and save! – the world.